Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. – Mark Twain
So go make lemons out of lemonade and see the glass as half-full.
Engage in things that make your life better and it will be better!
Remember that reality is just a thought away!
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This is leadership from a dancing guy Sasquatch music Festival 2009.
Official transcript at http://sivers.org/ff
Script: If you’ve learned a lot about leadership and making a movement, then let’s watch a movement happen, start to finish, in under 3 minutes, and dissect some lessons:
A leader needs the guts to stand alone and look ridiculous. But what he’s doing is so simple, it’s almost instructional. This is key. You must be easy to follow!
Now comes the first follower with a crucial role: he publicly shows everyone how to follow. Notice the leader embraces him as an equal, so it’s not about the leader anymore – it’s about them, plural. Notice he’s calling to his friends to join in. It takes guts to be a first follower! You stand out and brave ridicule, yourself. Being a first follower is an under-appreciated form of leadership. The first follower transforms a lone nut into a leader. If the leader is the flint, the first follower is the spark that makes the fire.
In the recent past I was dealing with many narcissistic, passive aggressive, manipulative personality types and did not even know it. I myself take full responsibility and allowed for this to happen in my life. I wasn’t seeing the bigger picture and blindsided by giving people the famous, “benefit of the doubt.”
The manipulation that I experienced was primarily in love relationships, certain friendships and in the work place. I also was witnessing and seeing a lot of manipulation going on in daily lives of other close friends, family and fellow employers and workmates. Needless to say, seeing all of this and having been through a lot of it myself, it was making me feel a bit cray cray and truly a toxic environment that was definitely not nourishing my sensitive soul. 🙂
We are constantly manipulating people by virtue of the power of influence. However, how far or what is the given extent to a person’s intentions? Children can easily be manipulated to believe Santa Claus is real. Adults are manipulated by the media to fall prey to an over load of marketing and advertising.
Have you ever felt like you have been on the receiving end of someone’s covert-agression? I have been through many detrimental relationships that have caused me much heartache and nausea that I now have enough experience and wisdom to spot it a mile away.
Skilled manipulators are good at what they do. They can appear so charming and benign on the surface AKA “impression management.” They know how to make others think well of them, even when they’re not behaving in a kind or respectable way. In your gut, you know it’s them, but somehow they make it seem like the problem is you. That’s enough to make anyone feel an ounce of craziness. In Dr. George Simon’s book, “In Sheep’s Clothing” he states that, “covert-aggression is a big problem, and it’s everywhere.”
Exposure to the issue has been great from the standpoint of increasing public awareness. I read an recent article by Dr. Robert Hare. Hare was among the first to identify the critical factor at work in psychopathy: “the callous, senseless remorseless use and abuse of others rooted in severe empathy deficits.”
In the book by Dr. Simon’s Character Disturbance, he points out, “it’s crucial to remember that along that continuum of disturbed and disordered characters, there are many conscience-deficient, abusive, exploitation-oriented, self-absorbed, and manipulative individuals who are not severely disturbed enough to be rightly labeled psychopathic, but who are nonetheless so seriously character-impaired that they wreak havoc in the lives of those unfortunate enough to be involved with them in some way.”
It is important to gain back your confidence and have a sense of validation and open up to feeling and being empowered by trusting your intuition and living in your own truth no matter what anyone says, blames, guilts, or projects on to you. There is a fine line but a silver lining indeed that can lead you back to the light that you are!
Your intuition or “gut feeling” and “hunches” are often the thing that may and has saved you. I know it has for me and sometimes I had known something all along and did not want to listen to my inner voice.
At times I catch myself thinking, “is that inner voice really true or am I being paranoid, negative, or neurotic about it.” Sometimes out of fear or worry I have been wrong about something, but time and time again, I have found that if just listen to that voice and if what was bothering me still keeps on coming up, then I just know that I have to trust myself and go with my gut.
When I was growing up nobody really told me about listening to yourself, trusting yourself, being with yourself and letting your inner self guide you. Intuition is likening to that of “EQ” (Emotional Intelligence). EQ is the link between the ration and emotional centers of the brain.
These are instinctive emotions and “gut feelings” that are inherent in the human being. The difference between intuition and false thinking is that your ego mind wants an experience that might not be the best for you. False thinking is not hearing the truth of your reality and not wanting to live in truth in that moment. The key is to look deeper into the feeling of what was really going on and get the lesson behind it. Generally, individuals who have fogged their minds with greed, judgement and other habitual tendencies may not be able to think clearly; therefore intuition becomes just as fogged.
We change and train our minds through the development of EQ. The pathway for emotional intelligence starts in the brain, at the spinal cord. Your primary senses enter at this point and travel to the front of your brain before you can think rationally about your experience. However, first they travel through the limbic system, the area where emotions are generated. As a result we have an emotional reaction to events before our rational mind is able to respond. Emotional intelligence requires effective communication between the rational and emotional centers of the brain.
“Plasticity” used by neurologists as a term to describe the brain’s ability to change. As we learn new skills our brains grow new connections. The change is gradual and our brain cells develop new connections to speed the efficiency of new skills acquired.
There are strategies to increase your emotional intelligence allows the billions of microscopic neurons lining the road between the rational and emotional centers of your brain to branch off small “arms” (much like a tree) to reach out to the other cells. A single cell can grow 15,000 connections with its neighbors. This chain reaction of growth ensures it’s easier to kick this new behavior into action in the future. Once you train your brain by repeatedly using new emotional intelligence strategies, emotionally intelligent behaviors become habits.
I believe that intuition, as our emotional intelligence, is the driving factor in what makes people succeed in life…draws people to each other in positive relationships…transforms our perception and makes us the best humane and compassionate people we can be; both personally and professionally. The major issue that surrounds intuition and developing intuition is not so much that we don’t instinctively have intuition; it’s the fact that we don’t listen to it, and that’s when we end up getting ourselves into a sticky situation. Intuition, like any other learned skill, must be fine-tuned to and given attention. At the end of the day it’s up to you to use it effectively.
Break the old paradigms of what getting older or aging should be like by making savvy, courageous and conscious choices in your life!
1) Never retire. Work at something that gets you excited to get out of bed in the morning.
2) Get and stay fit, healthy and athletic.
3) Prevent and not treat the symptoms of disease by improving your health and what you put into your body.
4) Embrace adventure, travel and new experiences.
5) Live independently.
6) Create new relationships with all kinds of human beings.
7) Live each day with passion and purpose.
8) Discover or rediscover your spiritual life to nature, to yourself, to others.
9) Keep your mind agile and sharp by reading, volunteering, learning a new language or cultivate and nurture your creativity.
10) You can make a difference in the world no matter how big or small…